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Resources To Improve Communication Skills With Your Christian Family
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3 Building Blocks For Communication Skills
Yes, your words matter. Choose them with wisdom and prayer. As we see in Ephesians 4:29, words should bear good fruit and bless those who hear them.
Communication changes with the tone of voice used. The same words can be spoken harshly or with kindness, and will impact your family relationships accordingly.
In every conversation, your body is communicating. From making eye contact (or avoiding it) to tapping your foot, you are sending a nonverbal message.
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Communication may not always be easy, but the basics of good communication are straightforward. In fact, you’ll find all of them in the book of Proverbs (among other places).
- Be honest. (Proverbs 12:22)
- Speak kindly. (Proverbs 15:1)
- Show respect and avoid gossip. (Proverbs 17:9)
- Stay calm and avoid arguments. (Proverbs 14:29)
- Listen and seek to learn from others. (Proverbs 19:20)
Of course, relationship communication includes a lot of words. But it is more than that! It also includes nonverbals, actions, and reactions. Consider these possible ways to improve communication.
- Put down/shut off technology when talking with someone.
- Remove sarcasm from your conversations.
- Make eye contact while talking with someone.
- Assume everyone has the best intentions.
- Try to understand the other person’s perspective, before (or instead of) responding.
Like most things in life, improving a skill comes down to… practice.
Read what God has to say about communication. You could start in the Proverbs, work your way through the Gospels, and find great wisdom in the New Testament letters.
Then, pray over the areas in God’s Word, and try those new strategies in your day to day communication around the home.
Communication is more than just what we say. It also includes how we say it, our nonverbal body language, and our tone of voice. It includes what we choose not to say, and how we listen (or fail to listen) to each other.
You can say “sure thing, hon” with love or with sarcasm, and be saying something very different each time. And whichever way you mean it will influence the course of that conversation and the direction of the relationship overall.
The biggest influences that you have on other people’s communication is going to come through your own efforts at communication and through prayer.
Your own efforts: Start practicing and modeling what you’re hoping communication will look like. When one person makes a change, it will naturally change what other people say or do.
Prayer: Ultimately, it is the Holy Spirit who changes hearts. If you see a change that someone else needs to make, pray for the Holy Spirit to show them that. Pray for their wisdom, conviction, and heart change.